How to Get Over a Broken Heart

By Susie and Otto Collins, Relationship Coaches

Getting over a broken heart after a relationship breakup or divorce can be
and usually is a very traumatic time in a person's life. No matter what age the
person is when it happens, a breakup or divorce turns their whole world
upside-down.

Many people do not realize that their future success in relationships is directly
related to how much they learn from those breakups and how they move forward
in their lives.

As Relationship Coaches, we've identified six ways to getting over a broken
heart and moving forward with your life after a breakup or divorce. We've found
that these are areas that you must deal with in order to heal, let go and move on to
creating more love in your life.

With that being said—here are the six ways:

1: Begin actively doing things to heal your broken heart. When there has been a
relationship breakup, it’s often tempting to wallow in your pain—to play music that
reminds you of your old partner, to visit places where you went together as a couple,
and to constantly think about that other person. While it’s important to give yourself
some time and space to grieve, it’s also important to start doing things that will be
loving to yourself and that will help you to heal.

2: Begin learning how to build relationship trust. When there has been a breakup and
you have been hurt, it’s often difficult to open your heart one more time. Take the time
to begin learning to trust again and that begins with learning to trust yourself first.

3: If you had jealousy issues in the relationship that broke up, you need to overcome jealousy
before you get in a new relationship. You may have been in a series of past relationships
where your partner cheated on you. You may have low self-esteem issues. You may
have had a habit of flirting with people other than your partner to get your partner’s
attention. Whatever the reason, jealousy eventually tends to destroy relationships and
the time to heal it is now as you examine what happened in your last relationship and
take responsibility for healing within yourself.

4: If there has been infidelity and your partner was the one who was unfaithful, make
sure that you take the time to figure out how the relationship went wrong and what you
might have done differently. In many cases, infidelity and affairs would never happen if
people understood how each person sabotages the relationship. Because people don’t
take the time to figure out what their part in the relationship breakup was, when they get
into new relationships, those relationships often end in break ups and divorce also.

5: If your previous relationship that broke up because it lacked intimacy and connected
love making, begin to take stock on what you want in a new relationship. You can have
it as your intention to have more connected love making in a new relationship if you start
focusing on the new relationship instead of looking outward for the attention and love that
they aren’t getting or to the past in what used to be with other partners. Learning to stay
in the present moment is certainly a key to creating better love making in a new relationship.

6: In order to heal and move on from a relationship breakup, you have to begin envisioning
what you want for a new romantic relationship and how you want romance to show up in
your life. We’ve found that when you have a clear idea about exactly what you want in a
new relationship, that type of relationship comes to you and your perfect partner will show up.
Many people feel that it isn’t possible to attract a soul mate to you but we know that soulmates
exist. Not only do soul mates exist but you can attract the type of partner that you want.

There are many free relationship advice resources that deal with helping you get over breakups.
We suggest that you do some reading and then begin shaping your life the way you want it to be.

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